How to Boost Your Toddler’s Confidence With Words

As a parent, you’re always trying your best to help your child be confident, resilient, and happy. But sometimes even the best parents slip into using language that undermines those goals.

Skip the Exaggerations

When you’re handling a whiny, strong-willed toddler it can be easy to use sweeping statements like “you always whine!” or “you never clean up your plate!”. But the truth is, those statements are usually unfair and always untrue. No child is always whining or never helping. Using phrases like that can make your tot feel insulted…and even lead to resentment and less cooperation.

We suggest tossing the worlds “always,” “never,” and “worst” right out of your vocabulary!

Reframe That Name

Along with these exaggerations, there are a few more labels that can go on your verbal no-fly list. Contrary to the old sticks-and-stones adage, verbal attacks can hurt a child, and negative descriptors we assign to youngsters can tear them down. Fortunately, positive words can be just as formative: positive descriptors can build a little one up.

When you find yourself wanting to call your toddler bossy or sensitive, take a moment to think about a positive word you can use instead. Labels can stick with kids for a long time— so let’s make them positive!

For example, you can call your little one “a leader” instead of “bossy.” Use “sympathetic” instead of “sensitive.” “Nosy” can be turned into “curious.” Instead of “picky”, your child just knows exactly what they like. “Slowpoke” can become “thoughtful.”

Think of a positive way to talk about those parts of your tot’s personality that test your patience. And remember: today’s “bossy” toddler can grow into an adult leader. Those aspects of their personality might be the traits they need to succeed later.

Connect with Respect

When your child is upset, it's important that you connect with respect: This means making your tot feel heard and understood using the Fast-Food Rule and speaking in a language they understand (Toddler-ese). 

Avvertenza: Le informazioni presenti sul nostro sito NON sono consigli medici per alcuna persona specifica o condizione. Sono solo intese come informazioni generali. Se avete domande o preoccupazioni mediche riguardo vostro figlio o voi stessi, si prega di contattare il vostro fornitore di assistenza sanitaria. Il latte materno è la migliore fonte di nutrizione per i neonati. È importante che, in preparazione e durante l'allattamento al seno, le madri seguano una dieta sana ed equilibrata. L'allattamento misto (seno e biberon) nelle prime settimane di vita può ridurre la produzione di latte materno e la decisione di non allattare al seno può essere difficile da invertire. Se decidete di utilizzare il latte artificiale per neonati, dovreste seguire attentamente le istruzioni.