PARENTS
6 Ways to Baby-Proof Your Relationship
Babies change everything—but these tips will help you stay connected!
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CONDIVIDI QUESTO ARTICOLO
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PARENTS
Scritto da
Happiest Baby Staff
CONDIVIDI QUESTO ARTICOLO
Bestseller
Even couples with top-notch communication can feel a bit rattled by the big changes that come with expecting a baby. One moment you’re deciding what to watch on telly; the next, you’re debating bottle sterilisers, sleep routines, and whose turn it is to fold the impossibly tiny washing.
Alas, preparing for a new baby isn’t all nurseries and baby name lists—it also involves navigating some real relationship growing pains. Experts say this transition often uncovers emotional landmines that can take couples by surprise. But with a bit of foresight (and a lot of grace), you can protect your bond and even grow closer through it all.
Pregnancy brings a whirlwind of to-dos that can easily push emotional check-ins to the bottom of the list.
But Dr John Gottman, a renowned relationship researcher, underscores the importance of what he calls “stress-reducing conversations”—intentional chats where couples share everyday worries and listen with empathy, rather than jumping to solutions. “Understanding must precede advice,” he says.
Try this: Carve out 10 to 15 minutes a day to talk about something that’s not baby-related. The goal isn’t to fix—it’s to connect.
How we were raised shapes how we approach relationships—and parenting. That’s why reflecting on your childhood experiences together before baby arrives can be incredibly helpful.
Licensed therapist and bestselling author Nedra Glover Tawwab points out that unexplored family history can affect how we relate as adults. In her book Set Boundaries, Find Peace, she explains how self-awareness and healthy boundaries are vital for strong relationships.
Try this: Chat about how you were disciplined, comforted, and supported growing up. Decide which parenting habits you want to carry forward—and which you’d prefer to leave in the past.
New parents often feel the pressure of shifting roles. Parenthood brings with it a need to rethink how chores and childcare are shared. If these aren’t discussed early, they can lead to stress and burnout that test even strong partnerships, according to the American Psychological Association.
Try this: Have a practical conversation about who’ll do what—from night feeds to GP visits to laundry. Revisit these plans often. Life with a baby is ever-changing, and flexibility is key. Read more on managing the mental load of parenthood.
Disagreements are part of any relationship—it’s how you deal with them that counts. Drs John and Julie Gottman identify four behaviours—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—as the “Four Horsemen” that signal relationship trouble. Their antidote? “Soft startups”—that is, gentle, respectful openings to tough conversations—and focusing on teamwork instead of blame.
“The way couples begin a discussion about a problem—how you present an issue and how your partner responds—is absolutely critical,” they explain.
Try this: Instead of “You never help with the baby,” say “I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed and could really use your help right now.” It’s a simple shift that invites cooperation.
Between feeding schedules and nap traps, it can be tricky to carve out time for romance. But keeping your connection strong matters. A longitudinal study found that couples’ relationship satisfaction often drops after becoming parents—especially if they neglect couple-time.
Try this: Create “micro-moments of connection”—small, meaningful gestures like holding hands, sharing a laugh, or offering a kind word. (Find more ways to reconnect with your partner.)
If things start to feel tense or off-track, reaching out to a couples therapist—ideally one who understands perinatal mental health—can be incredibly helpful. Therapy isn’t just for when things go wrong; it can be a proactive step to strengthen your relationship’s foundations.
Welcoming a baby is a huge life change! Sure, it can feel overwhelming—but it’s also a chance to deepen your bond. With a little teamwork, thoughtful communication, and plenty of support, you and your partner can grow stronger, not just as parents, but as people who’ve truly got each other’s backs.
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